Taking Positivity to a Spiritual Level

A blog by Gail Evans

Positivity is one of those ideas that seems to be the answer to many of our psychological ills.

It makes us feel good to live positively for absolute sure…but I’d like to highlight something that is often misunderstood about the idea of being “positive”.

Let’s take “The Law Of Attraction” as an example of one area where I see “positivity”  being used inappropriately.

Many follow the idea that the law of attraction prescribes “positivity” as the antidote to the lack we see in our lives.

In order to manifest your dream guy or girl for example, or your dream pay check and dream home you can’t allow yourself to focus on lack…you have to remain “high vibe” right!?

And I’ll tell you now…your unhappiness will never actually be solved by slapping on positivity as a statement.

Unhappiness is a by product… the resulting emotion of a deeper truth…which is that we are mostly walking around in a state of unfulfillment!

 I’ll come back to this, but firstly let’s understand more about positivity and what is actually is first…so here are some points I’d like to share:

1. Positivity is an Attitude

Positivity sourced from alignment and then integrated is an attitude!

An attitude that says that in my moments of “lack” I am still worthy even if I don’t feel it. I am still loveable, even if right now I don’t fully believe it and I am still on track, even if I feel like I’ve fallen off the wagon!

This kind of positivity is embodied and will keep you “rolling with the punches” that life will undoubtedly bring your way.

2. Positivity Requires Faith

A positivity that has a strong voice from within and bubbles up through the shadowy soup of *un-love, is actually the result of having cultivated faith.

Now, I’m not talking religion here…I’m talking about a faith in something greater than your “smallness” and greater often than our “humanness”.

This can be God, The Universe, Source…a faith in your community, the ideals you hold within yourself that you deem to be important…a faith in synchronicity or some kind of inner guidance & intuition…a faith in good hearted like-minded people and a faith in life itself serving some kind of higher purpose.

Without faith, in my experience in my own life and after working with many people who have lost theirs, I see that the ones who have faith…have hope!

And if you have hope, you can reach even the smallest ounce of positivity on the days where you feel like you are failing.

Now…I don’t mean that your feeling of unworthiness needs to be validated as if you ARE in fact unworthy…but what I am saying is that the thought and feeling that is telling you this is a part of you that desperately requires your love and attention.

This is why I am a huge advocate of learning how to connect to your inner child and of cultivating the skill of self parenting.

It’s your own internal “parent”… your own *soul voice…that is the precursor to a grounded and embodied sense of positivity!

4. Positivity isn’t Real if you are “Faking it Till You Make it”

By embodying your own inner parent, you now no longer need to embrace “fake it till you make it” positivity…you can instead allow yourself to “feel it till you real it” (ok, I know..but it rhymes right!).

This means you now allow your negative emotions to speak without denying them. You stop squashing them underneath your desire to remain “positive”.

Instead, you give your emotions the space they need to speak and you now have the necessary skill to connect with them in a loving way.

You love yourself into positivity rather than hide yourself behind the fake kind!

5. Cultivating Positivity Is An Essential Life Skill!

Without becoming a loving parent to ourselves…for ourselves…we lose the ability to self care, to nurture ourselves, to honour ourselves and to heal ourselves.

WITH a loving internal parent we begin to acknowledge our innate worthiness and our love-ability.

6. Positivity is the By-product of Fulfilment 

Finally, coming back to the issue of using positivity to cover unhappiness and unfulfillment…

If you find that you are trying to remain positive in order to release yourself from the grip of unhappiness, it’s time to focus on becoming a more fulfilled version of you.

Most often when we are feeling unhappy and victimised we have lost our connection to our truth and we don’t really know who we are.

It’s hard to find fulfilment when you don’t know “who” you are dealing with and what would truly help you to feel fulfilled in life.

We try to fill the gap often with partners, jobs, money, food or addictions of some kind…but this creates a kind of dopamine fix. It’s not lasting.

This is what will take you to positivity….the cultivation of it internally…rather than the appearance of it externally!

*un-love – my description of the lack of love that often lies within us

*Soul Voice – the voice inside of you that never speaks badly about you or others or life…it often requires practicing being loving with yourself before it speaks automatically and is heard easily!

THIS IS A GUEST FEATURE WRITTEN BY GAIL EVANS

Soul Alignment Coach, Gail Evans, is the Creator of 12 week Soul Alignment Program ALIGN, The Soul Led Business School & her Money Blocks Blueprint Series.

She has worked for many years guiding people towards reconnecting with their Inner Child, encouraging them to cultivate a connection to their Soul Voice.